Exerpts from Pat Schwiebert, RN
Your child’s baby has passed away and sorrow fills your lives in a way that you may not have experienced in the past. You grieve not only for the loss of your grandbaby that you will not get to enjoy growing up, but also for your children’s loss in not being able to have what he or she wanted so much. It is a double loss for you, perhaps not as deep as the one your child will experience, but nonetheless significant, and in some ways more complicated.
Playing the role of a parent to a grieving adult child will be both a blessing and a curse as you try to figure out how you can be most helpful in any given situation. Because you will be eager to do the right thing, and fearful of doing harm, you may find that you are often timid in your responses. You will experience moments of affectionate caring and times of bittersweet emotional pain.
We try in vain to protect our children from the agony of death and grief. A wise parent, however, learns to trust the child’s ability to swim in the sea of grief without drowning. That same parent knows that the child can only become fully alive by being submerged in the depths of his or her sorrow, by experiencing the death and hell that is a part of grief, and finally by being restored to life as one forever changed.
“We weep for that which would have been our delight.”
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